Marriage Reflections

First Year Anniversary: Reflections

Yes, my first year wedding anniversary was two months ago. And yes, we celebrated in grand style with dinner at St. Elmo’s and an overnight stay at The Alexander. Not Tahiti, but still pretty nice for two full-time graduate students. Oh! And we got an adorable anniversary cake from Hall’s Takes The Cake (so much better than freezing the top layer!).

I knew that I wanted to write about our first year of marriage, but for some reason, I’ve been putting it off. Waiting. For something deep and intentional and pin-worthy. I’ve been blog-stalking quite a few marriage blogs lately and all the topics seem a bit serious, like “How to Communicate Your Way to a Better Marriage” or “5 Common Sex Problems in Marriage to Be Aware of”. I am sure posts like these are very helpful and I may even want to read them some day. But not now.

Because, right now, my marriage is not very serious. In fact, right now,ย my marriage is pretty blissful and beautiful.

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Photo by Nathan Fertig, Creative Commons

But I wasn’t sure if anyone wants to read about that. About how I still try to get out of as many things possible so I can stay home and snuggle my Husband or about how I love the feeling of our legs wrapped around each other as we fall asleep. About how much I appreciate it when he proofreads my papers, helps me figure out Excel, and irons my shirts for class. Or how I love our kitchen teamwork (he chops and I sautรฉ) and how I am so happy when he goes to the grocery while I plan the meals. Or how we learned how to completely avoid most common martial arguments by simply having separate bathrooms, dividing the chores, and reviewing our schedules with each other in advance. I savor the realization that our marriage brings a perfect combination of freedom and safety while still complimenting my feminist values.

So, now you know: our first year of marriage didn’t bring anything crazy or earth shattering, but instead, brought the gentle conclusionย that I am more in love than ever before. Almost to the point when considering being away from Husband for any long period of time makes me feel incredibly sad. Not because I’m dependent on him, but because his presence makes my life that much better. And I like it when my life is better!

I’ve finally put away the wedding magazines and have stopped the daily review of all our ceremony pictures, but I am still a happy bride. Year 2? Bring it on!

Lindsay Sig

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50 comments on “First Year Anniversary: Reflections

  1. OldCountryGirl

    I feel very happy for you. Congratulations! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  2. Congratulations! Sounds like a solid friendship ๐Ÿ™‚

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  3. Lovely post! Happy anniversary! ๐Ÿ˜€

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  4. What a beautiful post, congrats!

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  5. A Nenes Life

    That is awesome. I wish more people wrote about the joys they have in their own marriages but you’re right a lot of folks write about how to survive it rather than what to love about it. Great post. Love it

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  6. Isn’t it amazing when you realize you’ve married your best friend? Keep finding ways to remind each other of that every day and it will only get better.
    Happy anniversary.
    Melissa

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  7. Happy Anniversary! I love this! My husband & I have been married 11 years now & we are more in love than ever so I agree with you. I dont want to read all the sad marriage posts bring on the love!

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  8. marlene frankel

    Looks like you are on the right track. Love to hear about young love. Next month I will be sharing my love for 46 years, and I still remember the early days.

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  9. Just really lovely. Happy Anniversary…and may it be the first of many. HUGS!

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  10. teyroque

    Wohooo! This is something to celebrate! I cannot agree more! People look for extra ordinary things everyday, but love per se is just ordinary. You can find it in everything that is mundane.

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  11. Head Chef

    This is such a lovely post!
    I’ve nominated you for the Liebster Award as a blog which I look up to.
    I’d appreciate it if you could go check out my latest post to see what it’s about ๐Ÿ™‚

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  12. Congratulations on your anniversary! This is SO encouraging! I’m getting married in November, and have been reading marriage blogs that all seem to be filled the problems of married life. What a breath of fresh air this post is!

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  13. THIS!!!!!! I love everything about this post – it’s very similar to how I feel about my own marriage (celebrated 1 yr in December) I miss my husband when we’re apart & I love spending time with him! I especially love when you said about your husband making life better. Amen to that!

    When I was looking for a good ‘happy anniversary’ card for my hubby, all of them seemed to serious & even depressing! Here’s to happy marriages ๐Ÿ™‚

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  14. well… that’s how the first year should be… loving, cuddly, and delicious. Mine was one battle after another. We married too young, too poor, and lived with my in laws the first year. However, we’ve been married for 26 years in June and are crazy in love. But, I do NOT want him touching me when we fall asleep. No sir.

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  15. thebeelife

    So sweet! I hope to have the same outlook once I tie the knot with my fiancรฉ!

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  16. Congratulations! Such a wonderful year! May all the years be as blessed. It’s wonderful that you can help each other like that and your story is an inspiration to others.

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  17. Idontwearahat.

    That’s adorable! It’s so great to read something positive. Congratulations ๐Ÿ™‚

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  18. That’s lovely. May it always be so for you.

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  19. Very nice, congrats to you both. Many more to come! ๐Ÿ™‚

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  20. The bungalow is aptly named …

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  21. So very sweet! Congrats and many more happy years x

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  22. This is such an amazing post and belated wedding anniversary wishes to the two of you lovebirds ๐Ÿ™‚ I can absolutely relate to your feeling here and after being 7 years in a relationship with my hubby (around 2 years marriage) and still in “over-the-moon-with-each-other” phase, I started my blog to let people know that happy marriages are existent in real world also !! It just not in disney movies you see happily ever afters ๐Ÿ™‚ And marriage like you said is just not about 5 sexual problems to be aware of ๐Ÿ˜€ Here is to happily ever afters to everyone in the wonderful world out there ๐Ÿ™‚

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  23. How beautiful and I feel so grateful that I can relate:) May you both be blessed with many more blissful years to come!

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  24. Marriage is a blessing! Thanks for stopping by RefreshHer to read my post about my great husband. After 35 years, it’s wonderful to enjoy each other as we do! Happy anniversary to you!

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  25. Travel Nurse April

    Congratulations!

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  26. Happy 1 year anniversary. Sounds like you are having an amazing year with hubby. How lovely to hear!!

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  27. This is so lovely!

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  28. Esther

    So sweet! My first anniversary is coming up! We’ll see what I end up writing ๐Ÿ˜›

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